Age 58
Bradford, VT
Ford Sayre (1966-1969), Lebanon Outing Club (1970-1971), Holderness School (1972-1974), Dartmouth Outing Club (1977), United States Ski Team (1974-1981), US Olympic Winter Teams (1976 & 1980)
wmalmquist@kingcon.com
Fantasies
Became Goals
During my
first week at Holderness School, the Fall of my Sophomore year in high school,
Jim Page gave me a training log. Jim told me that before opening the log I
should list my goals for my ski career and for the year. Jim also told me that
he and I should review my list of goals ASAP.
Articulating
my goals to present to someone else for review for the first time was the
largest challenge anyone has ever presented to me. While I had unspoken
aspirations to make the US Ski Team and to become an Olympian, I really had no
idea what it would take to reach those goals. Further, at the moment of Jim’s
assignment, I realized it was much easier to maintain those aspirations
(fantasies?) if I could harbor them secretly/unspoken... but I trusted and
respected Jim as my dorm master and coach... and I wanted him to respect me; so
I knew that I could not blow the assignment off.
I gave a
lot of thought to the long and short term goals I listed for Jim’s review...
making them reasonable/doable for me. When I met with Jim a few days later to
submit and speak about my goals, we had a lot of fun discussing how
conservative my goals were and consequently how they limited my vision... and
how I was limiting my vision of myself. This was the first time anyone had
spoken with me in this way. While I found it very complimentary that Jim told
me that he thought that I was capable of achieving much more than I had written
down, at the same time I found it very challenging that he actually accused me
of lacking courage and confidence in myself as demonstrated by my “reasonable”
goals. Jim told me that while I had no responsibility to him to set more lofty
goals, he was disappointed that I was not aiming higher.
I didn’t
realize it at the time but Jim’s challenge broke the ice which in turn made me
think about myself and my aspirations completely differently than I had... my
fantasies became my goals... my goals became consequences of my willingness and
ability to confront/commit to address actionable items... my commitment to
address actionable items became my day-to-day tasks... my day-to-day tasks
became actions to record and monitor... my records became data to evaluate progress
toward my goals... my progress toward my goals became my motivation to set
new/better goals... my new goals became consequences of my willingness/ability
to commit to address actionable items... What a great mentor and great lesson!
Holderness ski team in the early 70's. Malmquist back left; Page in center row on right. |
Jim Page contemplative before coaching a soccer game. |
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